Mind your business, Please
Were Diana and Charles meant for each other or were they a couple doomed from the start? This question has haunted many, and made many others sick every time. Should Charles have married her, knowing how he felt about Camilla, or did he do the right thing to continue the monarchy accepting his parent’s decision by marrying a wellraised ‘chosen’ virgin for the next Queen?
Diana has been immortalized as a saint who put up with the philandering ways of her husband. She was the pawn who was sacrificed under the juggernaut of the ‘Queen’. She just did not know what she was accepting to, when she dreamed of becoming the next queen, when she accepted the Prince proposal, a proposal which her older sister had rejected.
With the upcoming wedding of Prince Charles with Camilla Parker Bowles, everybody has an opinion and takes a stand, which according to them is for the best. Somehow, when it comes to other people’s lives, all of us have opinions and suggestions and are convinced that we can make it work better than the people concerned.
Reading a romance novel with a happy ending is perfectly fine, but when a man decides enough is enough and marries his lover of 20 something years, morals, rights and wrongs come oozing out of every pore. “How could he do this Diana? She was so pretty; poor woman walked into a threeperson marriage without a clue. She was so young; Charles should have known that all along and he still did it” is often repeated wail.
Why is that it is ok if a hero in a novel marries his childhood sweetheart, whom he couldn’t marry when they were 20, but it is so wrong and so unjust for Charles and Camilla?
Societal rules can be bent if needed for ourselves but when it comes to judging others, we take the hardest stand possible. It’s all cut and dry and bleeds before we are half way through it.
Maybe, the next time we are at crossroads in our lives, we should just plug in some imaginary characters, or people we just abhor and try to work out the best solution for them, or try to work what we would not have done were we in their place, that way we can look at the situation outside in and make sense of it. It just might also help us in understanding people better.
And, as far as Camilla and Charles are concerned, they are adults; they have their own priorities and schedules and know what is best for them. Even if they don’t, I am sure they have their own demons to face and dragons to slay.
Diana has been immortalized as a saint who put up with the philandering ways of her husband. She was the pawn who was sacrificed under the juggernaut of the ‘Queen’. She just did not know what she was accepting to, when she dreamed of becoming the next queen, when she accepted the Prince proposal, a proposal which her older sister had rejected.
With the upcoming wedding of Prince Charles with Camilla Parker Bowles, everybody has an opinion and takes a stand, which according to them is for the best. Somehow, when it comes to other people’s lives, all of us have opinions and suggestions and are convinced that we can make it work better than the people concerned.
Reading a romance novel with a happy ending is perfectly fine, but when a man decides enough is enough and marries his lover of 20 something years, morals, rights and wrongs come oozing out of every pore. “How could he do this Diana? She was so pretty; poor woman walked into a threeperson marriage without a clue. She was so young; Charles should have known that all along and he still did it” is often repeated wail.
Why is that it is ok if a hero in a novel marries his childhood sweetheart, whom he couldn’t marry when they were 20, but it is so wrong and so unjust for Charles and Camilla?
Societal rules can be bent if needed for ourselves but when it comes to judging others, we take the hardest stand possible. It’s all cut and dry and bleeds before we are half way through it.
Maybe, the next time we are at crossroads in our lives, we should just plug in some imaginary characters, or people we just abhor and try to work out the best solution for them, or try to work what we would not have done were we in their place, that way we can look at the situation outside in and make sense of it. It just might also help us in understanding people better.
And, as far as Camilla and Charles are concerned, they are adults; they have their own priorities and schedules and know what is best for them. Even if they don’t, I am sure they have their own demons to face and dragons to slay.
posted by Miya at Monday, February 21, 2005
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